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=== The Chantry ===
 
=== The Chantry ===
 
According to the [[Chant of Light]], [[Andraste]] had a spiritual marriage with the Maker. All Andrastian priests are therefore symbolically wedded to the Maker and sworn to celibacy. In the eyes of the [[Chantry]], marriage is both a celebration of tradition and a practical decision. Through a favorable marriage, one can make valuable connections, improve one's social standing, and secure financial stability for oneself and one's family. Love is not necessary for a successful marriage but is nonetheless desirable, as it makes the union stronger. The Chantry permits annulments but not outright divorce.<ref name="dgaider">[[David Gaider]]. [http://www.gamebanshee.com/news/94324-dragon-age-origins-forum-activity-v15-94324.html Dragon Age: Origins Forum Activity] GameBanshee.</ref>
 
According to the [[Chant of Light]], [[Andraste]] had a spiritual marriage with the Maker. All Andrastian priests are therefore symbolically wedded to the Maker and sworn to celibacy. In the eyes of the [[Chantry]], marriage is both a celebration of tradition and a practical decision. Through a favorable marriage, one can make valuable connections, improve one's social standing, and secure financial stability for oneself and one's family. Love is not necessary for a successful marriage but is nonetheless desirable, as it makes the union stronger. The Chantry permits annulments but not outright divorce.<ref name="dgaider">[[David Gaider]]. [http://www.gamebanshee.com/news/94324-dragon-age-origins-forum-activity-v15-94324.html Dragon Age: Origins Forum Activity] GameBanshee.</ref>
 
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{{CodexConditionalSection|If Leliana is [[Divine]] [[Victoria]] and in a romance with the Warden|}}
 
Leliana decreed that all members of the Chantry, from initiate to Divine, would be allowed to engage in romantic relationships. When questioned, the Divine pointed to Andraste, who served the Maker while wed to a mortal spouse. In time, many in the Chantry came to accept the Divine's decree that "Love is the Maker's best gift and is infinite."}}
 
   
 
=== City Elves ===
 
=== City Elves ===
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=== The Dalish ===
 
=== The Dalish ===
The Dalish appear to be more in line with Fereldan thinking rather than other cultures like Orlais. This means that they tend to take relationships slowly and seriously with each other. Once they have come of age, they may choose a mate with whom to "bond"<ref>As [[Gheyna]] refers to marriage among the Dalish in the quest [[Cammen's Lament]].</ref> for life. Elves who bond may exchange small gifts with one another.<ref>If Cammen and Gheyna are separated in [[Cammen's Lament]], he will give the warden The Tale of Illoren, saying he intended it as a bonding gift.</ref> It is unknown how they view same-sex relationships, but there seems to be no stigma against it. The only thing Dalish may frown upon is the refusal to have children.<ref>[https://twitter.com/PatrickWeekes/status/634572636903768064 Patrick Weekes on Twitter]</ref>
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Not much is known about the [[Dalish]], and the same holds true for their views on sexuality and marriage. The Dalish appear to be more in line with Fereldan thinking rather than other cultures like Orlais. This means that they tend to take relationships slowly and seriously with each other. Once they have come of age, they may choose a mate of the opposite sex with whom to "bond"<ref>As [[Gheyna]] refers to marriage among the Dalish in the quest [[Cammen's Lament]].</ref> for life. It is unknown how they view same-sex relationships, but there seems to be no stigma against it other than for the fact it will not produce a child for the dying race. As with most cultures, the Dalish do not approve of interspecies romance, and it is forbidden by them. To even dally with a human could earn exile from one's clan. This likely stems from both past hatreds and the fact that "pure elves" or Dalish are becoming increasingly rare.
 
Some Dalish clans practice arranged marriages.<ref>As said by [[Josmael]] in [[Dragon Age: Redemption]], who explains that he and [[Fina]] were betrothed at birth.</ref>
 
 
The Dalish do not approve of interspecies romance, and this may result in exile from one's clan.<ref>According to [[Arianni]], she was pressured to leave the clan for pursuing a relationship with a human, and then giving birth to a half-human son.</ref> This likely stems from the fact that children born of an elf and another species physically take after the other species.<ref name="half-races"/>
 
   
 
=== Dwarves of Orzammar ===
 
=== Dwarves of Orzammar ===
The [[Dwarf|dwarves]] of [[Orzammar]] are noted for their polyamory (the keeping of multiple intimate partners), especially among the upper classes. While a dwarf has only one legal spouse, many nobles keep concubines, typically [[noble hunter]]s, who are raised up to be part of the household and have their names recorded in the [[Memories]]. A dwarf's [[caste]] is determined by that of their same-sex parent, so many [[casteless]] offer themselves to [[Noble caste|nobles]] or to other higher caste dwarves as sexual partners in the hopes of producing a child of the noble's gender. As dwarven fertility is in dangerous decline due to chronic exposure to [[darkspawn]] corruption<ref>{{Cite wot|34}}</ref> as well as because of constant war with them, any noble child is considered a blessing, and such offers are rarely turned down. If such a union produces a child of the commoner's gender, however, the infant will be rejected, as it would be part of the lower caste and an embarrassment to the higher caste parent's [[house]] if it's allowed to stay with them.
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The [[Dwarf|dwarves]] of [[Orzammar]] are noted for their polyamory (the keeping of multiple intimate partners), especially among the upper classes. While a dwarf has only one legal spouse, many nobles keep concubines, typically [[noble hunter]]s, who are raised up to be part of the household and have their names recorded in the [[Memories]]. A dwarf's [[caste]] is determined by that of their same-sex parent, so many [[casteless dwarves]] offer themselves to [[Noble caste|nobles]] or to other higher caste dwarves as sexual partners in the hopes of producing a child of the noble's gender. As dwarven fertility is in dangerous decline due to chronic exposure to [[darkspawn]] corruption<ref>{{Cite wot|34}}</ref> as well as because of constant war with them, any noble child is considered a blessing, and such offers are rarely turned down. If such a union produces a child of the commoner's gender, however, the infant will be rejected, as it would be part of the lower caste and an embarrassment to the higher caste parent's [[house]] if it's allowed to stay with them.
   
 
=== Grey Wardens ===
 
=== Grey Wardens ===
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=== Orlais ===
 
=== Orlais ===
Aristocrats in [[Orlais]] are notorious for their hedonism and extravagance, and sexual relations with multiple partners of either sex are not uncommon. The peasantry is much less tolerant of such behavior, at least in public. [[Florian|Emperor Florian]] is rumoured to have had an affair with his cousin [[Meghren]], which resulted in Meghren being banished from Orlais to Ferelden. The scandal surrounding their relationship was likely due to their being related, however, not to the fact that they were both men.
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Aristocrats in [[Orlais]] are notorious for their hedonism and extravagance, and sexual relations with multiple partners of either sex are not uncommon. The peasantry is much less tolerant of such behavior, at least in public. According to ''[[Dragon Age: The Stolen Throne|The Stolen Throne]]'', [[Florian|Emperor Florian]] is rumoured to have had an affair with his cousin [[Meghren]], which resulted in Meghren being banished from Orlais to Ferelden. The scandal surrounding their relationship was likely due to their being related, however, not to the fact that they were both men.
   
 
=== Qunari ===
 
=== Qunari ===
[[Qunari]] do not marry or choose romantic partners. A Qunari's most important relationship is that with his or her colleagues. They do not generally associate mating with love, and recreational sex is treated as a simple biological need. They are capable of feeling and forming emotional bonds with one another, but do not express it sexually, as those who do are re-educated by the [[Ben-Hassrath]].
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[[Qunari]] do not marry or choose romantic partners. A Qunari's most important relationship is that with his or her colleagues. They do not generally associate mating with love. They are capable of feeling and forming emotional bonds with one another, but do not express it sexually, as those who do are re-educated by the [[Ben-Hassrath]].
   
 
The [[Tamassran]]s keep detailed genealogical records and choose who will mate with whom. They do not allow cross-breeding between races. Familial bonds are not present in Qunari society. Children are raised by the Tamassrans, evaluated, and assigned a job.
 
The [[Tamassran]]s keep detailed genealogical records and choose who will mate with whom. They do not allow cross-breeding between races. Familial bonds are not present in Qunari society. Children are raised by the Tamassrans, evaluated, and assigned a job.
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In the Tevinter Imperium, powerful mage families often orchestrate arranged marriages to improve the chances of having children with the potential to become "perfect" mages.<ref>[[David Gaider]] (June 27, 2014). [http://www.dragonage.com/#!/en_US/news/character-profile-dorian Character Profile Dorian]. Dragon Age.</ref>
 
In the Tevinter Imperium, powerful mage families often orchestrate arranged marriages to improve the chances of having children with the potential to become "perfect" mages.<ref>[[David Gaider]] (June 27, 2014). [http://www.dragonage.com/#!/en_US/news/character-profile-dorian Character Profile Dorian]. Dragon Age.</ref>
 
In Antiva, it is acceptable for parents to arrange matches for their children.
 
 
=== Vows ===
 
Both the [[Dalish]] and [[Andrastian Chantry|Andrastian]] cultures say vows during the marriage ceremony.
 
 
Dalish vows are said in [[Elven language|elvish]]. One version is "[[Sylaise]] enaste var aravel. Lama, ara las mir lath. Bellanaris," spoken by an [[Elf|elven]] Inquisitor in the [[Trespasser]] [[Downloadable content (Inquisition)|DLC]].
 
 
Andrastian vows are spoken in Common tongue. One known version of Andrastian vows are, "I swear unto the maker and the [[Andraste|Holy Andraste]] to love this woman the rest of my days." As the female version is never spoken, it is unclear whether these are set vows or something [[Cullen Rutherford]], the person speaking, wrote himself. It is unknown if it is customary for only the male in the relationship to say vows during a ceremony.
 
   
 
== Same-gender relationships ==
 
== Same-gender relationships ==
Same-gender relations are generally considered strange in [[Ferelden]], but Fereldans do not consider it immoral, and place no particular stigma upon it. Orlesians regard homosexuality as a mere quirk of character, and the Antivan Crows show a winking tolerance for relations with multiple partners of any gender. The Chantry does not seem to have an official view on the subject, and nowhere in Thedas is it prohibited.<ref>{{Cite wot|72}}</ref> The Qunari seem to have no taboo on the gender of one's recreational sexual partners, though presumably it would be unthinkable to refuse to perform their procreative obligations for any reason, gender or otherwise.
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Same-sex relations are generally considered strange in [[Ferelden]], but Fereldans do not consider it immoral, and place no particular stigma upon it. Orlesians regard homosexuality as a mere quirk of character, and the Antivan Crows show a winking tolerance for relations with multiple partners of either sex. The Chantry does not seem to have an official view on the subject, and nowhere in Thedas is it prohibited.<ref>{{Cite wot|72}}</ref>
   
There is pressure in certain circles, such as the elves and the human nobility, to marry an opposite-gendered partner, but this is motivated by pragmatism rather than morality; a homosexual couple cannot have biological children. For a diminished race like the dwarves, it is vital that every fertile individual produce offspring, and human noble families place great stock in the continuity of bloodlines in order to have clear heirs to noble titles and fortunes, and thus avoid the conflicts that often erupt when succession is not clear.
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There is pressure in certain circles, such as the elves and the human nobility, to marry an opposite-gendered partner, but this is motivated by pragmatism rather than morality; a homosexual couple cannot have biological children. For a dying race like the elves or dwarves, it is vital that every fertile individual produce offspring, and human noble families place great stock in the continuity of bloodlines in order to have clear heirs to noble titles and fortunes, and thus avoid the conflicts that often erupt when succession is not clear.
   
 
In Tevinter, same-sex relationships between nobles are largely hidden. These relationships are encouraged with favored [[Slavery|slaves]].<ref>{{Cite wot|72}}</ref>
 
In Tevinter, same-sex relationships between nobles are largely hidden. These relationships are encouraged with favored [[Slavery|slaves]].<ref>{{Cite wot|72}}</ref>
   
 
== Interspecies ==
 
== Interspecies ==
Interspecies relationships are possible, but frequently frowned upon by most societies. The fertility rate between two parents of different race are very low compared to that of the same race. In particular, elves are bound only to produce elven children with their own kind because their offspring with a human would be [[Elf-blooded]], appearing physically human. Similarly this also happens with dwarves. Subsequently, elves mating with humans is considered traitorous by the rest of their kind and any elf who conceives a child with a human risks expulsion from their community.<ref name="half-races">{{BWF|author=[[David Gaider]]|date=January 9, 2010|title=Where are the half-races?|url=https://web.archive.org/web/20160731183409/https://forum.bioware.com/topic/44360-where-are-the-half-races/page-2#entry574687|access=June 10, 2014}}</ref>
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Interspecies relationships are possible, but frequently frowned upon by most societies. The fertility rate between two parents of different race are very low compared to that of the same race. In particular, elves are bound only to produce elven children with their own kind because their offspring with a human would be [[Elf-blooded]], appearing physically human. Similarly this also happens with dwarves. Subsequently elves mating with humans is considered traitorous by the rest of their kind and any elf who conceives a child with a human risks expulsion from their community.<ref name="half-races">{{BWF|author=[[David Gaider]]|date=January 9, 2010|title=Where are the half-races?|url=http://forum.bioware.com/topic/44360-where-are-the-half-races/page-2#entry574687|access=June 10, 2014}}</ref>
 
A child between a dwarf and a human is a half-dwarf, which would be taller than dwarves but shorter than humans. Such children are extremely rare, as dwarves are comparatively few in number and those living underground are reclusive to outsiders; mating with other species would bring great shame to the dwarf as well as their family because of the social stigma. In addition, the dwarven fertility rate is very low due to the close proximity to the [[darkspawn]] taint for many generations.<ref name="half-races"/>
 
   
Nobody in Thedas has any idea what a qunari half-breed might look like, since the Tamassrans prohibit interspecies mating among qunari and there is no evidence of interbreeding between [[Tal-Vashoth]] and other races. However, there appears to be no taboo against non-procreative sex with non-qunari.
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A child between a dwarf and a human is a half-dwarf, which would be taller than dwarves but shorter than humans. Such children are extremely rare, as dwarves are comparatively few in number and those living underground are reclusive to outsiders; mating with other species would bring great shame to the dwarf as well as their family. In addition, the dwarven fertility rate is very low due to the close proximity to the [[darkspawn]] taint for many generations.<ref name="half-races"/>
   
In Dragon Age: Origins it is also possible to engage in bestiality at the Denerim brothel. The only option are [[nug]]s however.
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Nobody in Thedas has any idea what a qunari half-breed might look like, since the Tamassrans prohibit interspecies mating among qunari and there is no evidence of interbreeding between [[Tal-Vashoth]] and other races.
   
 
== Prostitution ==
 
== Prostitution ==
[[File:Brothel.png|thumb|373x373px|the interior of Kirwall's brothel, the Blooming Rose]]
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[[Brothels]] are legal in Ferelden, [[Kirkwall]] and in the dwarven city of Orzammar. Although they are not considered respectable institutions, it is no more taboo to visit them than a seedy tavern or gambling house. Prostitutes would usually cost 10 Gold pieces in the city of Kirkwall during Hawke's residence.
[[Brothels]] are legal in Ferelden, [[Kirkwall]] and in the dwarven city of Orzammar. Although they are not considered respectable institutions, it is no more taboo to visit them than a seedy tavern or gambling house. Prostitutes would usually cost 10 Gold pieces in the city of Kirkwall during Hawke's residence.
 
   
 
== Love legends ==
 
== Love legends ==
* If romanced, [[Leliana]] will tell [[the Warden]] the star-crossed (and likely analogous) tale of Alindra and her soldier lover. Class differences served to separate the pair in life and prevent their desired love match, but the gods ultimately brought the lovers together again after death as stars in the sky.
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* If romanced, [[Leliana]] will tell [[the Warden]] the literally star-crossed (and likely analogous) tale of Alindra and her soldier lover. Class differences served to separate the pair in life and prevent their desired love match, but the gods ultimately brought the lovers together again after death as stars in the sky.
   
 
== See also ==
 
== See also ==
 
* [[Romance]]
 
* [[Romance]]
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== References ==
 
== References ==
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