Bethany's starting approval rating is 
(+50); she will receive an unavoidable (+10) in prologue ( (+15) if the aggressive dialogue with Wesley is chosen). This makes it impossible to maximize rivalry with her.
Friendship[]
Friendship with Bethany can generally be earned through acts of kindness, by siding with mages or by supporting family. Bethany is a faithful Andrastian and also distinctly opposed to blood magic, so rebuffing demons and opposing blood mages will earn friendship as well.
Prologue[]
- The Destruction of Lothering: As a non-mage, choose the Aggressive response to Wesley's threatening of Bethany, upon meeting Aveline for the first time for
(+15). All other choices garner (+10).
Act 1[]
- Bait and Switch: Directly defend Bethany at the end of the quest for (+5)
- Birthright: By simply entering the vault in the Amell Estate basement you gain (+15). A further (+10) can be gained upon returning to Gamlen's House with Grandfather's Will and speaking with Bethany by choosing the friendly response on the second dialogue wheel.
- The Deep Roads Expedition: Take Bethany on the expedition (+15)
- Enemies Among Us: Ask for Bethany's assistance in breaking Idunna's compulsion (+5)
- Long Way Home: When Merrill opens the barrier with blood magic, choose the Aggressive option, "The demon, you mean." for (+5)
- Loose Ends: (Athenril/Smuggler Path) Let the young boy start a new life with his sisters by letting him have the loot. (+15)
- Magistrate's Orders: Kill Kelder (+5)
- Portrait of the Past: Giving Bethany your mother's portrait (found in a chest in the Amell Estate basement) back at Gamlen's House results in (+10), regardless of dialogue choices.
- Shepherding Wolves: Accept the quest from Sister Petrice (+5)
- Shepherding Wolves: Refuse to hand over Ketojan to the Arvaarad (+10)
- Tranquility: Promise Lirene you won't harm Anders (+5)
Tranquility: Upon leaving Lirene's Fereldan Imports you will be approached by Angry Fereldan; choosing the response, "We're on the same side." (available to a Diplomatic Hawke) instead of deferring to Bethany results in (+5). Alternatively, deferring to Bethany will result in the same approval gain, though Aveline Vallen does not gain (+5) also.
Tranquility: When talking to Anders, choosing "You want me to fight templars?" yields (+5)
Tranquility: When asked to kill Karl, choosing "Do as he asks" yields (+5) - Wayward Son: If Hawke choose the option "make up for your neglect" when speaking with Vincento. (+5)
Legacy DLC[]
- Legacy (quest) If you side with Larius (+5).
- After defeating Corypheus and returning to your house, talking with Bethany and choosing the diplomatic or sarcastic options yields (+5)
Rivalry[]
Rivalry with Bethany can generally be earned by choosing aggressive responses, by siding against mages or by exploiting Fereldans. It is impossible to maximize rivalry with Bethany.
Act 1[]
- Act of Mercy: When talking to Grace, choosing "I won't help you" yields (+5) When talking to Sir Thrask at the end, turning the mages into the Circle yields (+10)
- Long Way Home: When Merrill opens the barrier with blood magic, say "It did help us". (+5)
- Bait and Switch: At the end of the quest, agree with Fenris by saying, "I know the risks" of cooperating with a mage. (+5)
- Birthright: After finishing the quest, talking to Bethany and choosing "This will never be home" leads to (+10)
- Enemies Among Us: When talking to Knight-Captain Cullen during the end of the quest, Hawke can receive up to (+15)
- Shepherding Wolves: Refuse the mission (+5)
- The First Sacrifice: If you sleep with Jethann you receive (+5)
- Magistrate's Orders: If you let Kelder live (+5)
- Tranquility: After leaving Lirene's Imports, take an aggressive stance against the Fereldans (+5)
- Tranquility: When asked to kill Karl, choosing "Don't kill him" yields (+5)
- The Deep Roads Expedition: Leave her behind at home (+10)
- The Deep Roads Expedition: If you bring Bethany to the Grey Wardens (+15)
- Wayward Son: When you talk to Arianni and choose the aggressive responses (+10)
- Wayward Son: Sending Feynriel to the Circle (+10)
Legacy DLC[]
- Legacy (quest) If you side with Janeka (+5)
- After defeating Corypheus and returning to your house, talking with Bethany and choosing the aggressive option yields (+5)